The level that is deeper than "the tree wants to be calm but the wind is endless, and the son wants to be nourished but not waiting" is "there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time". After being old and defiled, he...
The level that is deeper than "the tree wants to be calm but the wind is endless, and the son wants to be nourished but not waiting" is "there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time". After being old and defiled, he is alone, unable to move in the bed, and his children are not around him. It can be said that living is even more tragic than death.
In the Chinese culture of "filial piety is the first of all virtues", caring for elderly parents is undoubtedly a basic filial piety, but in reality, when children get married and start a family, they have to be busy with their own work, have their own family, and have their own children to take care of. Few people can always accompany their aging parents.
Anti-Western culture, you will find that there is no single word "filial piety" in English. They still respect and respect their parents. When their parents encounter difficulties, they will contribute money and efforts, but they do not have the all-round and filial view of preventing old age, giving filial piety, and serving the elders.
These deeply rooted cultural differences have become increasingly compatible and preserved as the times go by, and there is no good or bad. However, in the second half of the sentence "No filial son in front of the bed for a long time", all cultures are suitable, expressing the bitterness and the romantic love belief, which is "I have been living a long time without a wife at home."
[Free Wife at Home]
In the national film "Who Loves Him First", Xie Yingxuan talks about a wife with a big eye with money, and won the Golden Horse Award for Best Actress. She started with a money-loving and aggressive scene. In fact, behind the scenes are all the bitterness and helplessness of the family who lived in her life. Her gentle and feminine side is that after her husband left, she decided to leave her inheritance to Xiao Wang, making her feel hysterical.
"I have no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, and I have no wife in my family for a long time." Do you agree? The background of this ancient saying is in a rural society. At that time, rural women married into women and had only developed a husband in their lives. The male protagonist and the female protagonist each performed their own duties. If the husband worked hard and was unhealthy, the wife could still share the joys and sorrows. But if the husband was lazy and did not know how to make progress, the family would never be able to eat or wear warmth. Over time, no matter how wise the wife was, she could not show off her good face, and she would even leave home in the end.
Some people think that the world is in a state of turmoil, and I don’t know who will accompany you to the end until the last moment. When they were young, they might wander on the streets when they were old. They once made vows, but now they have long seen the clouds. Some people believe that in the modern high-pressure society, "husband and wife are the same birds, and they are difficult to fly" is no longer normal. No one can completely abandon the quality of life, and love without bread cannot last long.
If you don't want to hurt your relationship for money, it is best to have good financial agreements and household expenses before marriage. You can pursue purity when talking about love; when forming a family, you must pursue practicality. People must first live vulgarly before being elegant, and then die. Under this premise, there is no couple who can talk about money.
No matter how bloody the warning is, it only exposes the real worldly ways. If you want others to treat yourself, you must first show kindness and ask your partner to be good at managing the family, and you must make your family worry-free. The couple walked for fifty years and generally knew how to live together. However, when they were late to stay with the elderly, they should give more thought to their sense of fragility of "aging".
Liu Yong once used eating food as an example. If the dinner is cooked and served on the table, the evening party will not wait for the longest time and start moving on their own. When the elderly appear calmly and eat silently, they will feel a sense of inferiority complex of "repeating". Everyone will grow old, and they will be in a better position. Those who are children must know about it.
